A Note for Readers:
This article is primarily dedicated for men, since the information gathered focuses solely on men’s experiences and results. Nevertheless ladies, please read on, as the information provides awareness for all.
Here’s a scenario…
You are sitting in front of your computer with nothing to do, no one at home, and a box of Kleenex within close proximity. Suddenly, a switch in your brain indicates that it’s time to pro-create, and you comply by surfing to your favorite pornographic website without a flinch.
Upon arrival, you are struck with images, and video clips activating neurochemicals in the brain that correspond with motivation, pleasure, anticipation, surprise, shock, and anxiety. There is no turning back now; you must take advantage of this evolutionary gold rush and experience instant gratification!
At this point, you’ve synchronized the pleasure centers in your brain to seek outcome (pun intended) to the cadence of artificial voyeurism, then boom! You climax.
Everything building up to your pornographic session was highly stimulating, but after you have attempted to reproduce with the computer screen, all feelings of excitement and arousal deplete within minutes.
Why do you now feel like a lazy slob? Well friends, I am here to provide you with insight as to why that is.
The History of Pornography
With the advancement of technology, what was once natural to our pursuit in seeking a real life partner can now be determined by how fast we orgasm through a few clicks on a computer screen. The whole process of making eye contact with a potential mate, sub-communication, flirting, sensual touch, going on dates, kissing, four play, and so on, should never be substituted for artificial voyeurism.
Getting laid by your computer screen is fulfilling for you, and if it is, then you are swimming in a small pond, with a scarce amount of opportunities and restrictions. It’s time to jump in the ocean, swim free, and reap the bounty.
Pornography has fiercely advanced throughout generations without shame, or sympathy for our evolution and it’s not a matter of catching up to it at this point, but more so letting go.
Let’s take a look at how it all started…
The earliest signs of pornography could be found in prehistoric times where hunters and gatherers carved depictions of man, and woman in sexual engagement out of stone and wood. Ancient Egyptians, Romans, and Greeks were known to have used a wide variety of mediums through painting, sculpting, and engraving acts of erotica that were not just plain missionary, but consisted of fellatio, cunnilingus, threesomes, and homosexuality. In the second century, India’s Kama Sutra made it’s way to the public as a manual for the art of lovemaking and relationships, while later in the 16th century the Japanese were crafting woodblock prints of erotic images.
It wasn’t until the 80s, 90s, and early 2000s where porn started to take flight, and become directed to consumers as a form of voyeurism.
Gradually, static erotica depicted in magazines became less desirable to a man’s sex drive, which led him back to his surmising imagination, and the addition of purchasing new magazines to preserve the excitement in novelty.
Next came video rentals and late night TV channels. As much of an improvement as this was for men seeking a new thrill, users still noticed a decline in novelty after numerous watches. Guys would be inconvenienced with re-visiting the video store for new material, or waiting until next weeks episode.
Dial-up Internet was the subsequent player that provided online access to mostly stills and later on filmed footage, but the speed was lagging, and users risked damaging their computers with spam and viruses after persistent use.
Fast-forward to 2006, where hi-speed Internet erupted, and defined the culture of pornographic material that we are experiencing today. This was the start of accelerated Internet quality and tube sites, which provided boundless photo and video galleries for ones apetite. Users could remain anonymous in the comfort of their own homes, while surfing their favorite pornographic websites with a simple click of the mouse.
The convenience of porn today leads users into a frenzy of opening multiple websites, tabs, saved bookmarks, fast-forwarding/rewinding, and playing/pausing in order to synchronize their ejaculation to the cadence of pixelated fantasies. The level of stimulation produced by pornography today, compared to when Romans were sculpting nude statues is unmatched to what the human brain can handle.
Now that you have some background as to how pornography has evolved, let’s look how our bodies react to today’s highly stimulating material.
Hi-Speed Pornography and the Brain
For many men, porn can potentially lead to a spiral of addiction with excessive use. The material today not only ignites an escalation to pornographic novelty in order to sustain arousal, but it can also trigger the same reward centers in the brain that methamphetamine and cocaine do, causing potential sexual dysfunction and drive to pursue real partners.
Dopamine, the Unwavering Catalyst
Dopamine is the neurochemical in the brain that’s responsible for triggering motivation to seek pleasurable outcomes for ones desires and cravings. This is where your primitive circuitry for natural rewards such as food, water, sex, love and novelty lie. When you get a rush of Dopamine, emotions of excitement and the urge to take action propel intensely throughout your body. Your natural senses recognize this heightened state, and in turn make it your body’s goal to remember, and repeat the stimulatory event to accommodate the pleasure centers in your brain.
Throughout time in any addiction, Dopamine levels and sensitivity will decrease in the brain, making the user seek higher amounts of stimulation.
This in turn deepens the ineffectiveness of what was once satisfying.
Gary Wilson, the creator of Your Brain On Porn explains the process of brain stimulation…
“The process between Dopamine, and erections happen when you are sexually excited, and the NUCLEUS ACCUMBENS, or the reward center fires up, and sends reward signals to the HYPOTHALAMUS. The HYPOTHALAMUS contains erection centers that receive messages, and then send nerve impulses down the SPINAL CORD, and to the PENIS which produces and sustains the erection.” – Gary Wilson
DeltaFosB, the Key Player
After persistent spikes of Dopamine surges, your brain triggers a molecular switch called DeltaFosB. This is a protein that accumulates in the brain after constant use of chemical, or behavioral addictions. DeltaFosB hangs around in your brain for ONE to TWO months after your last binge, and then slowly dissolves, but the damages can be permanent.
This is a major factor on why people can become potentially addicted to pornography through the buildup of DeltaFosB, since it has the capability to alter the reward center and initiate both sensitization and desensitization pathways in the brain.
Pub Meb study on DeltaFosB: a sustained molecular switch for addiction
What Does It Mean to Be Sensitized and Desensitized to Pornography?
Sensitization is the repetitive conditioning of your brain that makes you hyper-reactive to a particular stimulus when done frequently.
For example, your unconscious mind might trigger powerful cravings to watch porn when you are suddenly alone in your room, a sexual pop-up appears, or even something as simple as clicking through Facebook for an extended period of time can stimulate these sensitized pathways. In other words, your brain has picked up on cues and patterns that when presented, provoke repetition.
Desensitization is the repetitive conditioning of your brain that gives you a numbed response to pleasure, leading you to engage in higher Dopamine raising activities, such as more intense pornographic material.
Throughout time, desensitization to your natural sexual stimuli can harm your ability to wholeheartedly pursue a mate, or even maintain a proper relationship with your current partner. When you surf through porn sites, your brain becomes repeatedly bombarded by the surplus of sexual novelty that create anticipation, surprise, shock, and anxiety in your emotions. This effectively increases, but also paralyzes your Dopamine levels in the long run.
With infinite tube sites, categories and videos to seek arousal from, real life partners suddenly don’t feel as rewarding as they once did. The escalation of pornographic desires gradually INCREASE without the users conscious awareness (i.e. seeking unusual fetishes, disturbing videos, paraphilias, and so on) by burning out their Dopamine receptors.
We are habitual creatures, and what we frequently spend time repeating becomes ingrained in our neurological architecture whether it is consciously decided, or not. You might think that porn doesn’t have you on a leash, but the truth of how any addiction affects an individual are the behaviors, and favorable outcomes one collects after they stop. Within several months OFF porn you will notice dopamine levels, desensitized and sensitized pathways gradually come back to baseline. For some it can take a FEW WEEKS to a FEW MONTHS, for others it can take YEARS.
The body is capable of enduring long-term beating, but it also requires a steady stream of recovery to return back to baseline.
The Damaging Signs of Hi-Speed Pornography
The brain was NOT evolved to sit down in front of a computer screen to experience sexual pleasure. Every time you do this, you are challenging the state of ARTIFICIAL VOYEURISM Vs. REAL-LIFE PARTICIPATION.
Voyeurism is gaining sexual arousal from watching others live out their carnal fantasies, in this case, moving pixels on a screen that you can control, and categorize to your mechanical fulfillment. The reinforcement of this practice teaches your brain that sexual enjoyment can be achieved through a few clicks, instead of the much more desirable, and naturally rewarding real-life partner.
“With multiple tabs open and clicking for hours, you can experience more novel sex partners every ten minutes, than your hunter gatherer ancestors experienced in a lifetime.” – Gary Wilson
If you started watching hi-speed pornography since your early teens, and still watch it in your 20s, 30s, 40s, and so on, there could potentially be an addiction prevalent. Regardless of what you might think, you’ll never know until you experiment with discontinued use.
“Addiction is the continued use in spite of negative consequences.” – Gary Wilson
Here is a list of re-occurring signs, and symptoms many avid porn users experience:
- Erectile dysfunction
- Delayed ejaculation
- Inability to orgasm during sex
- Loss of attraction to real partners
- Decline in libido
- Social anxiety
- Poor communication skills and inability to pick up on social cues.
- Less motivation to pursue life’s natural rewards: proper nutrition, exercise, sexual partners, family, friends, personal goals and accomplishments.
- Brain fog
- Low energy
- Lack of proper eye contact
- Weak vocal tonality
- Diminished risk taking ability
- Aggressively over reactive behavior
- Bad posture, since you’re slouched over in front of the computer, which can make you Kyphotic over time. Real sex is dynamic, and doesn’t turn you into Quasimodo.
- Questioning sexual status. Guys can experience feelings of doubt as to whether they are primarily attracted to woman, men or transsexuals through desensitization. When heterosexual pornography becomes boring, the user turns to watching homosexual, or transgender related content to sustain feelings of surprise, shock and anxiety which generates enough Dopamine to re-acquire sexual arousal. This is an example of EXTREME escalation to pornographic novelty, and if this sounds like you, it’s time to fix the problem.
Where do you go from here?
The stronger you identify yourself with the symptoms on this list, the more prevalent your porn addiction is. Not all of these symptoms attribute to hi-speed pornography since there’s other variables in ones evolution, and environment that elicit unique behaviors.
By process of REMOVAL from what could be a POTENTIAL CAUSE, you get closer to becoming aware of your situation and sooner, or later…
Performing at your peak potential.
Seriously, what’s the worst thing that could happen 30 days without porn?
Oh, your favorite porn site gets less traffic because you are out meeting beautiful woman… what a disaster.
Today my friend, is when you STOP staring at your screen for sexual arousal. You’ve been damaging your NATURAL stimuli long enough.
In the next article, I’ll provide you with the nuts, and bolts to REBOOTING the brain, actionable strategies and resources to fully embody this mindset.
IMPLEMENT what I offer in these articles, and expect an optimal change in yourself more than you ever thought possible.